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His Porn, Her Pain
224 pages, 2016
science & nature
1064 booksWhen you first logged onto the Internet in the 1990s, did you ever wonder, "What do you suppose would happen if the United States were flooded with free, high-quality pornography?" We now know the answer, says Dr. Marty Klein, as this is exactly what took place 15 years ago.
Written by an award-winning author and veteran sex therapist, this practical, innovative, and often passionate book addresses the explosion of pornography use, advises couples on defusing conflict about it, guides parents in helping their kids deal with it, advises people concerned about their use of it, and shows how honest talk about sex can resolve America's "porn panic."
So what did happen when Internet porn flooded America? The rates of sexual assault, divorce, and child molestation declined. And yet various religious groups, politicians, some feminists, anti-trafficking activists, and many marriage counselors talk unceasingly about the damage porn viewing is doing to our society. They have created a "PornPanic" that has demonized the recreation of some 60 million Americans.
Americans are always ready for new reasons to feel guilty and ashamed of their sexuality, and Internet porn is the newest reason. Wives and girlfriends worry that they can't compete with it; teens use it as a misguided substitute for sex education, often disturbed by intense adults-only imagery; and psychologically vulnerable people get caught up in hours of compulsive porn surfing every night, feeling isolated and inadequate as a result.
Fortunately for his many readers, however, using clear reasoning, clinical expertise, and political savvy, Klein shows that for most people, porn is not the real problem. With the experience gained from 34 years of doing therapy―that's 35,000 sessions―Klein asks a simple but profound question: when we talk about porn, what are we really talking about?
This book eases readers' minds as Klein addresses common concerns and debunks common myths while identifying what we should be concerned about. Most importantly, the author explains how we can heal America's obsession with porn by engaging in honest talk about sex―something he knows is neither simple nor easy. The text includes sample conversations to help adults talk to each other about pornography and suggestions for parents on how to talk to their kids about porn―healthy discussions to help their kids develop "Porn Literacy." This book offers honest, thorough, expert information desperately needed by a nation of people driven to panic about pornography.
In His Porn, Her Pain, Marty Klein explores the concept of pornography addiction. He explains that it's not always about the addiction, but more about how individuals manage their sexual desires and fantasies. It's a great read if you're looking to understand this complex issue.
The book digs into the effects of pornography on relationships. Klein explains that it's not the porn itself causing the problem, but the lack of communication and understanding between partners. If you're struggling in your relationship due to porn, this book might offer some insights.
Marty Klein takes a look at how society and culture shape our views on pornography. He argues that societal norms and expectations often create unnecessary guilt and shame around porn use. This book encourages you to question these norms and form your own opinions.
His Porn, Her Pain emphasizes the importance of sexual literacy. Klein believes that understanding our own sexual desires and being able to communicate them effectively can lead to healthier relationships and a better understanding of pornography. It's a must-read for anyone looking to improve their sexual literacy.
In this book, you'll find practical advice on how to deal with pornography in a relationship. Klein provides strategies for open communication, understanding each other's needs, and finding common ground. If you're looking for ways to navigate this tricky issue, check out His Porn, Her Pain.
