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The State of Affairs
336 pages, 2019
Esther Perel explores why people cheat and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic; because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected – an expression of longing and loss.
This a must-read for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. This book is perfect for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who just wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
In The State of Affairs, Esther Perel takes a deep look into the complex world of infidelity. She explores why people cheat and how it impacts relationships. It's not just about betrayal, but also about longing and loss. This book will help you see infidelity from a different perspective.
Perel digs into the role of desire in relationships. She explains that desire is not just about sex, but also about the need for connection, recognition, and novelty. This book will help you understand the importance of maintaining desire in a long-term relationship.
The State of Affairs explores the paradox of love and desire. Perel explains that while love seeks closeness, security, and predictability, desire needs distance, novelty, and mystery. Balancing these two can be challenging but is essential for a healthy relationship.
Perel takes a look at how social and cultural factors influence our views on infidelity. She explains that our beliefs about monogamy, marriage, and love are shaped by our culture and society. This book will help you see how these factors can impact your relationship.
In The State of Affairs, Perel provides insights on how couples can heal after infidelity. She explains that while it's a painful process, it's also an opportunity for growth and transformation. This book will guide you on how to rebuild trust and reconnect with your partner.
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Esther Perel's The State of Affairs pulls you in, not only with its insights, but also its eloquence. A must-read for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
Dan Savage - Author, Media PunditPerel's book The State of Affairs is an insightful and compelling exploration of the complexities of infidelity. It's a must-read for anyone who has ever loved.
Brene Brown - Researcher, AuthorEsther Perel's The State of Affairs is a provocative exploration of the many facets of modern relationships. It's a compelling read that challenges our preconceptions about infidelity.
Eli J. Finkel - Psychologist, Author